Tuesday, March 31, 2020

Opposition is the Proof of Progress

To all my game changers

I used to think that because my intentions were pure, honorable and good that everyone would see my good works and appreciate it.  In short, everyone would be happy. Can you believe this was not the case. When I was not prepared for it, I got slapped down.  I was rejected like I was shooting a jumper on the court all by myself.  Out of nowhere as my light sought to emerge, the darkness appeared to oppose it. You ever had that happen?  It happened to me more than I wanted. 

I didn’t get this revelation till recently after years of being discouraged. The sad news about this is that I just got it.  I have been heading this direction for awhile but now I understand and can share it. Heres’ the important point I want you to grasp.

Opposition is the Proof of Progress. 

The first ones that slapped me down were my parents.  Then it was relatives and friends.  And later it was the church.  

You too?

Well you know your parents don’t hate you.  They are not your “enemies.” But it sure felt like that.  “How come you don’t support me?” Insert dramatic screaming and conversation here.  For me, my parents were not equipped with the wisdom or vision to see what I was sharing.  

They were operating at a survival mode.  What they had done had worked and what I was proposing seemed outside of my “station in life.”  It was grandiose.  It was acting “white.”  OOH went there.  

The next time I remember I got the beat down was on similar things.  And it hurt because I expected differently from friends and family.  I learned that I should not give that too much energy or weight either.  

As we start to shine, those around you may sometimes feel threatened. You have just shown them what they are not doing and or where it scares them. So they may lash out at you.  “Who does “he” think he is?

When I pastored a church in the Nations Capital, I was opposed for my politics, my faith and my leadership.  I am conservative and have a clear definition of what that is.  I am a disciple of Jesus Christ. I don’t follow trends, personalities or traditions unless they are Biblically sound.  

I know you know this but they are not really threatened by you; they are actually threatened by their own lack of ability, fears and shortcomings.  You just reminded them that they have settled, quit, stop trying, or failed.  

If you don’t quit though, know this.  Nothing can stop what is meant to be. Resist the natural temptation to fight darkness with darkness. Anger with anger. Hate with hate.  Stay away from the dark side.  It is easier.  It is where I come from.  I have survived a lot.  But this will only perpetuate the cycle of suffering and end up bringing you down.

Small minds talk about people.  Average minds talk about events.  Great minds talk about ideas.   

It may seem personal, but recognize that it is not. That is powerful.  Then you know that they aren’t really attacking you because it really isn’t about you.

So to attack them back or engage in petty back and forth not only brings you to their level, but it ultimately resolves nothing.  

Don’t waste your energy trying to convince people to understand you.  Your time is too valuable to try to prove yourself to people. 

Why is it that people with small closed minds always have the loudest mouths?

The more you know yourself, the less you care what others say about you.

In your heart, thank them, bless them, and move on.

Kites rise against the wind not with it.

Special guest next week, 

Analytic Endeavors Podcast host Nic Thompson  and owner of Big Ideas Industries.

All on the next episode of Game Changers episode 12 - Subscribe today.

Thursday, March 26, 2020

Solutions For Good Sleep With Lt. Col. Dave Grossman

 Wisdom from Lt. Col. Dave Grossman.

One of the things we don’t do is listen more to the wisemen in our lives.  There are grandparents, and uncles that have accumulated a wealth of knowledge over their lifetimes.  

Listen to this sage speak.   My guest coming soon is retired U.S. Army Lt. Col David Grossman.  

You can hear it below here:

Podcasting is an excellent way to capture the wisdom of our elders.  It’s not easy to listen sometimes because not everything they say is for everybody. And honestly, not everything they say is gold.  But on this weeks episode I have a guest that is golden.  We spoke for awhile and when he got comfortable he dropped some nuggets I want to share with you.  

I didn’t know him personally before our interview.  I have heard of him for decades.  On this episode he will be sharing the importance of sleep and how it affects us, soldiers and folks contemplating suicide.  Who would have known the key to success was sleep?  

He is going to talk about using caffeine effectively, how to sleep better, about church security, the Second Amendment, gun rights, the role and title of a Sheepdog, about self discipline and resilience.  This grandfather is going to give some parenting 101 advice.  And he is even going to talk about faith.  He ties it all together.

You are going to thank me for this episode. 

Dave has five patents to his name, has published four novels, two children’s’ books, and six non-fiction books to include his “perennial bestseller” On Killing  (with over half a million copies sold).Since his retirement from the US Army in 1998, he has been on the road almost 300 days a year, for over 19 years, as one of our nation’s leading trainers for military, law enforcement, mental health providers, and school safety organizations.

He is a US Army Ranger, a paratrooper, and a former West Point Psychology Professor.  He has a Black Belt in Hojutsu, the martial art of the firearm, and has been inducted into the USA Martial Arts Hall of Fame.  

Dave also mentions that getting a Fitbit to monitor your sleep and health is a good thing.  I put a link below for you along with his first book.  He has another coming out soon.  When he and it is available, I’ll have him back on.  

This guy is great.  He is one of a kind.   He was a great guest for the Game Changers Podcast.  Hope you enjoy it as much as I did.  

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Sunday, March 22, 2020

Guns and the Pandemic With Colion Noir

The Pandemic has people back in the gun stores buying ammo, and more guns. For me, it has allowed me to reconnect with good people, and family. I hope to get you on the show soon. My guest this week is a good friend, known in the world as Mr. Colion Noir, gun rights activist and Youtuber. It's a light conversation but Colion is going to dive into the new interest in gun ownership during this age of COVID-19. We videotaped it below as well.

The podcast is a little different as I share some thoughts on the dangers of comparing yourself to others. And I give some tips on Operational Security.


I'll be sharing some wisdom on comparison, jealousy and envy. Keep it in check.

"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt

Operational Security. Nobody needs to know what you have, where it is and all of that. Dial it back. We were right. We are prepared.

This isn’t the end of it though.

And subscribe to show, the YouTube channel and the blog.

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Tuesday, March 17, 2020

Conversation with the host of WarriorCast

Host of Warriorcast.com 

This is a casual conversation with Kenneth Blanchard, II, the host of the Warriorcast podcast. He has been in the martial arts for over 20 years.  He is not the stereotypical gym rat.  Listen as we talk about combat sports, how he got started and what he thinks about the martial arts.

He is a college educated, home owner who’s passion can hurt you.  He is also into the photography of action figures, check out his instagram  @kickinkollector.  He’s a funny guy. A pleasure to be around. 

He got into podcasting to help develop his communication skills.  

I love this guy.  He makes me proud as a dad.  

Sunday, March 15, 2020

5 Things You Must Know About COVID 19

Podcast Episode 9

5,374 people have died so far from the coronavirus COVID-19 outbreak as of March 13, 2020, 17:35 GMT.

There are currently 142,783 confirmed cases in 136 countries and territories. The fatality rate is still being assessed.

The Truth about the Coronavirus

Coronaviruses (CoV) are a family of viruses that cause sicknesses like the common cold, as well as more severe diseases, such as Middle East Respiratory Syndrome and Severe Acute Respiratory Syndrome. A novel coronavirus (nCoV) is a new strain – one that hasn’t previously been recognized in humans.

Coronaviruses cause diseases in mammals and birds. A zoonotic virus is one that is transmitted between animals and people. When a virus circulating in animal populations infects people, this is termed a “spillover event”.

Store Shelves have been emptied across the world.
Fights have broken out, carts piled high, and across the United States, Canada and the United Kingdom, most supermarkets imposed a cap to limit the number of toilet paper rolls a person can buy.
There is no shortage of videos capturing the mass hysteria that has swept up globally as shelves are cleared.
Hand sanitizers, cleaning solutions, canned goods, water bottles and pasta shelves have are also sold out.

When people are told something dangerous is coming, but all you need to do is wash your hands, the action doesn’t seem proportionate to the threat.

People naturally start to panic-buy when they think something is scarce, and photos on social media can easily fuel that panic.

What Do You Need In A Survival Kit?
At a minimum, you should have the basic supplies listed below:

Water: one gallon per person, per day (3-day supply for evacuation, 2-week supply for home)
Food: non-perishable, easy-to-prepare items (3-day supply for evacuation, 2-week supply for home)
Battery-powered or hand-crank radio (NOAA Weather Radio, if possible)
Extra batteries (Similar item available in the Red Cross Store)
Deluxe family first aid kit
Medications (7-day supply) and medical items
Multi-purpose tool
Sanitation and personal hygiene items
Copies of personal documents (medication list and pertinent medical information, proof of address, deed/lease to home, passports, birth certificates, insurance policies)
Cell phone with chargers (Similar item available in the Red Cross Store)
Family and emergency contact information
Extra cash
Emergency blanket
Map(s) of the area

Consider the needs of all family members and add supplies to your kit:
Medical supplies (hearing aids with extra batteries, glasses, contact lenses, syringes, etc)
Baby supplies (bottles, formula, baby food, diapers)
Games and activities for children
Pet supplies (collar, leash, ID, food, carrier, bowl)
Two-way radios
Extra set of car keys and house keys
Manual can opener

Additional supplies to keep at home or in your survival kit based on the types of disasters common to your area:
N95 or surgical masks
Rain gear
Work gloves
Tools/supplies for securing your home
Extra clothing, hat and sturdy shoes
Plastic sheeting
Duct tape
Household liquid bleach
Entertainment items

Blankets or sleeping bags


  • Cover your nose and mouth with a tissue when you cough or sneeze if you're sick.
  • Clean and disinfect frequently used items like your keyboard, mouse, and phone with an anti-bacterial solution.
  • Stay home if you feel ill.
  •  Avoid touching your eyes, nose, and mouth since germs are often spread this way.
  • In public stay six feet from infected
  • Overall protect your eyes, skin, nose and mouth from coughers, sneezers and places where viruses can float onto raw foods, open air places



New Facebook page @kbgamechangers

If you like the show, please share it with one person you think might subscribe. Thanks man. Kenn

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Sunday, March 8, 2020

Small Talk For Success

Small Talk For Success

In this 24 minute podcast episode you'll hear how to communicate better with your spouse. I got a chance to ask a single woman what is lacking today with relationships. This show will help you start small talk. There are tips for speaking in small groups. How to communicate for intimacy. How to start a conversation with a stranger. It could be the push you need to do better at work. The key words here are open ended questions and active listening. Learn these for the win. Subscribe to this podcast.

Why is Communication so hard? 
Asked of a single woman I know. The topic prompted me to share this with you so you can do better.

Two Game Changing Points:

1. An open-ended question is a question that cannot be answered with a "yes" or "no" response, or with a static response.
2. Active listening.
There are three levels of safe topics to talk about.

More tips:

* Be attentive and give eye contact.
* Make active and engaged expressions.
* Repeat back what you’ve heard, and follow up with questions.
* If you notice something you want to say, don’t say it. Challenge it and go back to listening.
* For bonus points, wait an hour to bring up that thing you didn’t say earlier.

Communicate for intimacy.

Good Luck. New Facebook page @kbgamechangers
If you like the show, please share it with one person you think might subscribe.

Thanks man. Kenn

Wednesday, March 4, 2020

Corona virus Update

If you have been shopping lately you may have seen the increase of hysteria about the virus.  People are buying unnecessary and excess stuff.  If you have bought teargas masks, 37 gallons of bottled water, or a years supply of surgical face masks that is extreme.

According to the CDC, most of the people in the United States have little immediate risk of exposure to the Coronavirus aka COVID-19. This is a new disease and they are still learning how it spreads, the severity of illness it causes, and to what extent it may spread in the United States.

Believe it or not, people like you and I are still catching colds, have allergies and even catching the flu. Hold on there cowboy!  Everybody that sneezes isn't about to die.

Don't be a bigot.

People—including those of Asian descent who have not recently been in an area of ongoing spread of COVID-19 or been in contact with a person who is a confirmed or suspected case of COVID-19 are NOT A GREATER RISK of acquiring and spreading COVID-19 than other Americans.  Viruses cannot target people from specific populations, ethnicities, or racial backgrounds.

People who have returned from an area with ongoing spread of COVID-19 more than 14 days ago and do not have symptoms are not infected with the virus and contact with them will NOT give you the virus.

CDC recommends that travelers avoid all nonessential travel to China. This does not include Hong Kong, Macau, or the island of Taiwan.

Here are the hot spots around the world.

  • China (Level 3 Travel Health Notice)
  • Iran (Level 3 Travel Health Notice)
  • Italy (Level 3 Travel Health Notice)
  • Japan (Level 2 Travel Health Notice)
  • South Korea (Level 3 Travel Health Notice)

Level 3 is to avoid unnecessary travel to this area.
Level 2 Practice enhanced precautions to this area.
Level 1 practice regular precautions to this area

Don't be an idiot.

Older adults and people with chronic medical conditions may be at increased risk for severe disease.  This is one of the reasons the elderly in Washington State were susceptible.
All of us should avoid contact with sick people that have traveled and clean their hands often by washing with soap and water for at least 20 seconds or using an alcohol-based hand sanitizer with 60%–95% alcohol. Soap and water still work.  Don't bleach your hands.

Travelers should stay home and monitor their health during travel and for 14 days after returning to the United States. These travelers who feel sick with fever or cough or difficulty breathing should seek medical advice. Call ahead before you go to a doctor’s office or emergency room.

Don't be nasty.

Cover your cough or sneeze with a tissue, then throw the tissue in the trash.
Clean and disinfect frequently touched objects and surfaces using a regular household cleaning spray or wipe.

The CDC does not recommend that people who are well wear a face

mask to protect themselves from respiratory diseases, including COVID-19.

Face masks should be used by people who show symptoms of COVID-19 to help prevent the spread of the disease to  others. The use of face masks is also crucial for health workers and people who are taking care of someone in close settings (at home or in a health care facility).

Wash your hands often with soap and water for at least 20 seconds, especially after going to the bathroom; before eating; and after blowing your nose, coughing, or sneezing.
If soap and water are not readily available, use an alcohol-based hand sanitizer with at least 60% alcohol. Always wash hands with soap and water if hands are visibly dirty.

At the time of this post, there is currently no vaccine to prevent coronavirus disease (COVID-19).

The best way to prevent illness is to avoid being exposed to this virus and take care of your hygiene. I'll keep you informed.

Monday, March 2, 2020

How to Get UnStuck

The first step in getting unstuck is to recognize that you are stuck.  It happens to us all.  The worse thing feeling in the world is when you think it is just you and you don't know your why or your how. There are many reasons we get discouraged and lose our motivation.

It can happen at any age or stage of life. Do you still dream?

Dreams are what fuel us. When we don't have any daily motivation to drive us, we become bored or worse. Once we become stagnant, we get regretful.  We get angry.  We get stuck.  You could be incredibly talented, have the best contacts, and have a ton of experience, but they aren’t going to do you any good if you aren’t using them. One of the things I want to introduce on this podcast and blog is to occasionally introduce to some something you have heard of but may have never tried.

One of the ways you can stay active mentally, stay fresh is to learn and try new things.

Some of us are struggling with the feeling of being overwhelmed.  You re doing things without a purpose or a end game.  Stop and see where your current path is going to take you when you reach it.  We struggle with this issue because we know we are supposed to do something, but the what has us puzzled.  When your life is out of focus, your internal engine shuts down.  You lose your mojo.  You stop caring.

The longer you put something off, the harder it is to get it done? That’s because inaction fuels procrastination. It comes down to the way our minds work. Our minds aren’t designed to coast.

You will miss 100% of the opportunities you don’t take. 

Over time, all of us lose our desire to try new things.  Over time we become complacent and fearful of failure.  Over time we become stagnant.  Even fresh water starts to stink after a while if it just sits there. Once we become stagnant, we get regretful.  We get angry.  We get stuck.  You could be incredibly talented, have the best contacts, and have a ton of experience, but they aren’t going to do you any good if you aren’t using them.

We live in the greatest time in human history.  You can take your talent or the gift you are blessed with to do anything.  You can choose to stay or move out of your current condition. We lack the motivation to do more than just exist.  Without motivation, your talent is useless.

We still fall short of living our best lives in a time of plenty.  We still are plagued personally by arrogance, greed, lust, envy, over-indulgence, aggression and laziness.  That laziness is some of the cause of our misery. For too many of us we have so much that we do nothing.

There is no fast fix.  We gradually got stuck so you have to work with the same persistence to get out. You need to clarify your priorities.  You can start by focusing on where you want to go, who you want to be, and what gets you excited.

Think about where you are.  Pick a small goal that is achievable and move.  You want something that you can do now to get started.  Take advantage of your energy and excitement and use it to propel you forward one step at a time.

No one likes rejection.  To succeed you must see rejection as an opportunity to learn, adjust, and improve.  The stuff we can do easily is rarely appreciated by us.  To grow you have to stress or push that muscle.  Past failures, disappointments, and losses can be really hard to deal with.  They can be reminders instead of motivators.  Those reminders come from others that have pushed through.  This is when being around positive, successful and others like you helps.

Don’t settle for low hanging fruit.  Stretch yourself.  There will always be risk involved when you’re going for something big.  This has been my personal issue most of my life.  I achieve my goals only to realize it was too small.

When we notice we are stuck, it is often at a crisis point.

On my first YouTube Video for the show my guest is a dynamic guy that is a fighter, fitness trainer, author, actor, entrepreneur, husband, father and friend. On this weeks' podcast interview you can hear us as well as see us in the video.

Listen in to this great man and I talk about mindset and his life.

Mr. Luther Smith is a born native of Alexandria, Louisiana, but was raised in Wilmington, North Carolina now living in the Baltimore Maryland area. Luther Smith is a proud Army veteran, having held the title of E6/Staff Sergeant and serving his country for more than thirteen years. Even after completing his tour of duty, Luther continued to support his country by becoming a Federal Contractor serving the DOD community for seven years.

Luther is a strong believer in hard work and is dedicated to serving and uplifting others. He is a delighted father and dad of five kids, two sons and three daughters, as well as a loving and devoted husband. As a proud father, Luther loves spending quality time with his children. Taking his son to Jujitsu training was one of his regular Saturday outings, and a great time for quality bonding. In fact, it was during one of these Saturdays Luther decided to take kickboxing classes too in order to practice the art and techniques of martial arts alongside his son. What started out as classes to support his son led into a successful career of Boxing.

Mr. Luther Smith is now the proud owner of I FIGHT FOR IT LLC, a small Veteran owned company, focusing on the empowerment and support of entrepreneurial mind frame as well as combat sports and life motivation.

In a few short years, Luther has already made huge strides in Combat Sports. Luther also is the owner of his own gym I.F.F.I. Boxing Fitness in Upper Marlboro MD in which he only does one on ones with clients to give them the personal attention they deserve.

 ACCOLADES: PRO BOXING RECORD: 2015 - Current (11-5-0 *9KO's*)
 Amateur Career: Represented the United States in Tuscany Italy at the WKA Worlds Tournament 3x Champion, Silver and Bronze WKA Worlds Medalist 2014 WKA Silver and Bronze World Medalist 2014 WKA North American Kickboxing Champion 2014 Revolution Fight Series Muay Thai Heavyweight Champion 2013 Jeter Promotions Maryland State Boxing Heavyweight Champion

ACTING: Lead role in FOR MY WOMAN EPISODE 4 season 2 “Under her Spell”
Extra on Creed 2

 PERSONAL TRAINER: Trains and motivate clientele in the kick boxing and boxing discipline of martial arts. Have worked with and trained NBA players as well as staff from the Governor of Maryland’s office. Focuses heavily on the anti bullying and confidence raising of youth as well as some adults.

AUTHOR: Luther also has authored what he calls a "short read" book entitled The Power of Can "Stop Running from Success" and plans to write a few more in the future. The book is available on all digital book outlets and stores.

 3 P’s Of A Bully Buster (available in digital form only via Amazon Kindle   You can also purchase some of Luther's gear by visiting his online store.

Luther Smith: https://linktr.ee/tcg_umbrella

Check out this episode!

Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the face - Mike Tyson

Thursday, February 27, 2020

The Truth About the Corona Virus

There are a lot of dumb stuff out right now about the Coronavirus.  Here's the quick view about what it is and how to keep yourself and your family healthy. If someone ask you what is the Coronavirus, here you go.

The Coronavirus is a mutation of a virus that has been around for years. Officially and by medical folks, it is known as Covid-19.

It is caused by a member of the Coronavirus family that has never been encountered before. Like other Coronaviruses, it has come from animals. Many of those initially infected either worked or frequently shopped in the Chinese city of Wuhan seafood wholesale market.

The virus can cause pneumonia. Those who have fallen ill are reported to suffer coughs, fever and breathing difficulties. In severe cases there can be organ failure. As this is viral pneumonia, antibiotics are of no use. The antiviral drugs we have against flu will not work. Recovery depends on the strength of the immune system. Many of those who have died were already in poor health. It appears to be hitting older people hardest, with few cases in children.

Viruses can also be spread through droplets landing on surfaces such as seats on buses or trains or desks in school. Much of the advice from experts is common sense, and not much different from what you would do to dodge the flu or any other respiratory virus.


  1.  Cover your nose and mouth with a tissue when you cough or sneeze if you're sick.
  2.  Clean and disinfect frequently used items like your keyboard, mouse, and phone with an anti-bacterial solution.
  3.  Stay home if you feel ill. 
  4.  Avoid touching your eyes, nose, and mouth since germs are often spread this way.
  5.  In public stay six feet from infected 
  6. Overall protect your eyes, skin, nose and mouth from coughers, sneezers and places where viruses can float onto raw foods, open air places 

 Keep Calm and Carry on


Monday, February 24, 2020

Black Man With A Gun

The end of African American history observance month 2020 is this week.
I’ve always been a fan of history. I don’t like what happened most of time. I don’t romanticize about it. I don’t even wish I was born earlier. I had enough drama in my own lifetime.
 I’ve even made some history.

My friends from the Virginia Citizens Defense League (VCDL) asked me to do a little video to remind my American family of how far we’ve come and how far we have to still go.

 Freedom to live as our Republic was intended is always under attack.

Most people don’t know I’ve been defending the right to keep and bear arms publicly since 1991. I am the founder of the first African American National Gun Club, the Tenth Cavalry. We had chapters in DC, Baltimore, NJ, Chicago and Georgia. I’ve helped launch several  untraditional gun groups.

I was one of the champions for concealed carry reform nationally.  I lobbied the US Congress and in the state legislatures of Virginia, Texas, South Carolina, Michigan, Maryland, and Wisconsin. I have been producing podcasts since 2007.  The Black Man With A Gun Show podcast  (2007- 2019) was one of the first pro-gun podcasts. I have voiced commercials for TV and traditional radio against racist gun laws before social media. I have been featured in four documentaries. I has authored several books.  I’ve recently just written a couple of pieces for the USCCA.

But in December 2019 I decided to let the next generation have at it.

 Well until requested to speak on this video.
I may be the best that ever did it and got away with it. 

 I'm still around if you need me though. Just send up the Black signal!

Friday, February 21, 2020

Here's What No One Tells YOU about Smelling Good

I was working with security officers and police officers for over twenty years.  I was with some funky men.  Some of it was just a basis of not knowing any better.  Then there are the younger brothers I meet at church and at the gym.  I'm hoping some of you are listening. To all the fellas that are joining the podcast and checking out the blog, thanks!

What no one tells you about your smell. Let's fix that.

A man sees but a woman smells.

Smell is our strongest sense. It is connected to our memory. Women like to be with guys who smell good.  Wearing a fragrance is a distinctive way of expressing yourself. Depending on the scent you choose, wearing a fragrance can make you more attractive and more approachable.
A majority of the fellas don't wear a fragrance.  I remember in the Marines the SGTMAJ would say something like, "it smells like a Whorehouse in here, who's got the perfume on?"

The purpose of this show is to make you better. If you want to attract a woman and keep her attention – pay attention to your smell.

Do I have your attention yet?  

What do people most often overlook?  Their noses. 

Going to share about cologne and perfume but before that, let’s talk funk.

How's your breath?  Do you walk around making flowers droop?  Do dogs move away from you?  It could be your breath.  You might have the chronic, halitosis.  There are not that many mints in the world.  Do you know bad breath is still plaguing up to 10 percent of the world?  That is like 7 billion people if I use my hands to count. If you’re worried you’re one of these people, one trick is to lick your wrist, wait ten seconds, then sniff the patch you licked: If it smells, chances are, so does your breath.

If you are not sure just ask a home girl. A friend, neutral female friend.

This, in fact, is true of any concern you have regarding your various bodily odors, be it mouth, foot, armpit or even groin (okay, maybe not groin. Just wash your ass man).

Find somebody you know and trust and ask them,”. If they tell you that you don’t smell bad, then most likely, you don’t have anything to worry about.” Just remember, if they tell you that you smell fine while backing away with their eyes watering, you may want to try asking somebody else.

It’s nearly impossible to smell yourself, even if you’re smelling funky. The receptors in your nose that would normally respond to your own particular brand of smells practically shut down after being bombarded with the same scents for so long.

Basically, your nose goes numb to your own stank so you don’t go insane.

Sweat usually means bacteria, and bacteria is what gives off the stench.  Just because it is natural doesn't mean we want you around.

Now go by the golden rule of body odor: If you can smell any odor on yourself at all, others can smell it a lot more. Put on more deodorant, use wet wipes to give yourself a quick cleanup, or put on a new change of clothes. The same rules goes for deodorants, perfumes, colognes, and body sprays too. If you can still detect your fancy perfume on you after a while, other people can definitely smell it when they’re around you.

Lets’ talk about fragrances. Forget what my SGTMAJ said.  Buy some cologne.  It will differentiate you from inmates, teenagers, and men that can't get a mate.

Smelling good and using fragrances is something else no one talks about.   But I want you to shine.  You know the motto of the Game Changers podcast.
When you know better, you can do better.

Wearing a fragrance is a distinctive way of expressing yourself. Different scents carry different vibes, and knowing these vibes and choosing accordingly matters. Also, people associate scents with memories and other people (especially women). If you are wearing scents that are unremarkable or common – you'll smell like everyone else.  Think of how you think a old man smells.  How does 13 year old smell?  How does a prisoner smell?  Is it starting to gel?

Smelling good, brothers:
  1. It can increase your level of attractiveness.
  2. It can increase your perceived level of trust.
  3. It can effect on how people perceive you.
  4. It can reduce stress levels.
  5. It can increase confidence levels.
  6. It can increase your alertness.
  7. It can double your chances of getting a woman's phone number.
80% of men don't use a fragrance regularly!

Major brands create perfumes that are part science and part marketing. They have a familiar feel to all their perfumes. Ralph Lauren perfumes, for example are created to have similar scents. And the same for Polo.  It is too strong for some and just right for others.  When deciding to purchase a new fragrance – let your nose decide!

Cost isn't based on what is good or bad.  We end up paying for the marketing cost and the image associated with a brand.

In the podcast I'll be sharing in detail:
  1. The types of fragrances.
  2. How to test them.
  3. Which one to buy.
  4. How to apply them best.

I know this is something that nobody else had the guts to share with you but I had to.  I want you to win.  I want you to rock it.  I want you to be a game changer.


Check out this episode!

Wednesday, February 19, 2020

A Book Series For You To Check Out

Everyone has a story, but not everyone shares it. Mine involves werewolves. It is fictional but I wrote it as if I was there, weaving American history, music and drama together.  I am writing a series about a guy called Solomon Love.

I would love for you to check it out and let me know what you think.  Here's the set up.

He was born in what is now the west African country of Gambia, Sulayman, an aspiring musician and storyteller, of the tradition of “akonting,” he was captured by British slavers and sold as a slave in North America in the 1700’s. He was accused of raping his white mistress, the plantation owners’ daughter, and subsequently publicly whipped until presumed dead.  Laying in the courtyard of a huge estate, barely alive but unconscious, he comes to in the full moon night. Wounded but unfettered, he makes his escape into the nearby swamps. Going by the limited knowledge he had about the land and the lore, he remembers that North was the direction of freedom. There was  a myth that God had made it so moss only grew on the north sides of the trees.

After hours of walking in the marshes, he learned that moss grew on all sides of trees. Seeking to die in peace, bleeding out and dehydrated he rest in the hull of a tree trunk as he waits to pass on from this life to the next. As he slips in and out of consciousness, he sees the eyes of a predator closing in on him.

When he awakes he finds that he is now being taken care of by a strange woman of the swamp. He heals and enjoys a freedom he has not seen in this land. He soon learns the price of his freedom. This woman has changed him into something else. They are now spiritually bound.

For over three hundred years he has evaded her. Today he is a modern day blues musician. A relic in every sense of the word. He has successfully managed to keep his secret hid from all but a few. The times are changing. Evil is flourishing. It is becoming harder and harder to keep his existence undercover. And now there is another problem….

This is the continuing story of Solomon Love, werewolf.

The books are self published. They are hard to find on Amazon.com but I have links below.  They are quick reads.

Solomon Love: Where The Moss Grows

Solomon Love: Voodoo Child

Love Never Dies: Solomon Love Series

Why werewolves?

My favorite movie monster was always the werewolf.  The movie monster has changed since Lon Chaney, Jr. first changed into the Wolf Man in the black and white film but I still love the character.  Unlike vampires, zombies or Frankenstein's' monster, the werewolf is a living thing.  It is cursed. It is feared.  It could be anyone.  It is natural.  It is the subject I pull from to create a series of werewolves that originate from a man bitten by a werewolf during the period of American slavery.  The man now almost immortal has been hiding in plain sight as a blues musician.  The books chronicle bits of history, blues music, horror and crime drama.

I am still polishing my craft as a writer and editor.  The latter needs more work. But the story is exciting to tell.  I gleaned the help of my friend Derek Ward to help me with writing dialogue in the first two books.  The excitement for me is in researching the lore, the music and trying to keep the history straight.

The most recent book is more sexual in nature than the others.  I am a romantic at heart, with a dirty mind.  In my creative journey, I can see this as a graphic novel or a Netflix series.  I have seven more books in my head.  Only time will tell if it comes to fruition.

Tuesday, February 18, 2020


Looking for a government job? 

Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before… Phil 3:13

When I was unemployed.  Looking desperately for a good government job, I was crushed by how many jobs I put in for without hearing anything.  I was convinced USAJOBS was the devil.  I found out later that there are ways to do it better.

Have you ever tried to get a position through USAJOBS?  It isn’t easy but not impossible.  After 7 years, I finally got one of my resumes through the gauntlet.  It wasn’t luck or a celestial event.  Someone gave me advice.  I want to share some of that with you. 

When you start or restart, create a professional profile for yourself.  You email address should not be anything but your name.  You will be judged later by RUMPSHAKER-123@ mail.com for sure. The key word here is professional. 

Pay Attention to the Announcement

Make sure you see how the supporting documents can/should be submitted.  Success is not in the number of resumes you send out, but in how thoroughly you address the employer’s needs and show your value in each submission.

In reviewing the basic qualifications and the job description – if you do NOT have similar types of duties, which make use of similar knowledge/skill/ability then you will not be considered for the position.

Don’t lie if you don't meet all of the requirements.  If you meet the basic qualifications but not the specialized experience, you will likely not be rated as well qualified by the HR team.  Don't dishonestly claim something you didn't do or a skill you don't have.

About that Resume

Match the language used in the posting. Do NOT spell out numbers (i.e., “ten” vs. "10"), even for small numbers. Get the dates right.  This is important when HR is determining whether or not you have the 1 year of specialized experience (if that is part of the qualification requirements). Be thorough in your description of job duties for each position on your resume. HR can NOT ‘guess’ or ‘assume’ or ‘give you the benefit of doubt’ that you have the knowledge/skill/ability to do the job that is being advertised.

A typical federal resume is 4-6 pages. Make good use of your resume “real estate;” everything on your resume should be focused on the job you are applying for. Anything else should be eliminated. Ten years is the main focus. You are not likely to achieve success when applying for federal jobs with a 1-2-page resume. 

Success is not in the number of resumes you send out, but in how thoroughly you address the employer’s needs and show your value.  Don't use full sentences, but start a phrase with a verb.

For the majority of the assessment questions, if you can say expert or near expert, when relevant, do it.  But be able to back it up in your text afterwards. (i.e., examples)

You have the opportunity to save five resumes in USAJOBS.  Use it.  Do not submit the same resume for every opportunity. It may be easy but by using a cookie-cutter resume, you’ll make the same mistakes.  

And finally, don’t give up.

If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door.

I finally got that good government cheddar in November.  I hope this helps you.