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Monday, February 24, 2020

Black Man With A Gun

The end of African American history observance month 2020 is this week.
I’ve always been a fan of history. I don’t like what happened most of time. I don’t romanticize about it. I don’t even wish I was born earlier. I had enough drama in my own lifetime.
 I’ve even made some history.

My friends from the Virginia Citizens Defense League (VCDL) asked me to do a little video to remind my American family of how far we’ve come and how far we have to still go.

 Freedom to live as our Republic was intended is always under attack.

Most people don’t know I’ve been defending the right to keep and bear arms publicly since 1991. I am the founder of the first African American National Gun Club, the Tenth Cavalry. We had chapters in DC, Baltimore, NJ, Chicago and Georgia. I’ve helped launch several  untraditional gun groups.

I was one of the champions for concealed carry reform nationally.  I lobbied the US Congress and in the state legislatures of Virginia, Texas, South Carolina, Michigan, Maryland, and Wisconsin. I have been producing podcasts since 2007.  The Black Man With A Gun Show podcast  (2007- 2019) was one of the first pro-gun podcasts. I have voiced commercials for TV and traditional radio against racist gun laws before social media. I have been featured in four documentaries. I has authored several books.  I’ve recently just written a couple of pieces for the USCCA.

But in December 2019 I decided to let the next generation have at it.

 Well until requested to speak on this video.
I may be the best that ever did it and got away with it. 

 I'm still around if you need me though. Just send up the Black signal!

Friday, February 21, 2020

Here's What No One Tells YOU about Smelling Good

I was working with security officers and police officers for over twenty years.  I was with some funky men.  Some of it was just a basis of not knowing any better.  Then there are the younger brothers I meet at church and at the gym.  I'm hoping some of you are listening. To all the fellas that are joining the podcast and checking out the blog, thanks!

What no one tells you about your smell. Let's fix that.

A man sees but a woman smells.

Smell is our strongest sense. It is connected to our memory. Women like to be with guys who smell good.  Wearing a fragrance is a distinctive way of expressing yourself. Depending on the scent you choose, wearing a fragrance can make you more attractive and more approachable.
A majority of the fellas don't wear a fragrance.  I remember in the Marines the SGTMAJ would say something like, "it smells like a Whorehouse in here, who's got the perfume on?"

The purpose of this show is to make you better. If you want to attract a woman and keep her attention – pay attention to your smell.

Do I have your attention yet?  

What do people most often overlook?  Their noses. 

Going to share about cologne and perfume but before that, let’s talk funk.

How's your breath?  Do you walk around making flowers droop?  Do dogs move away from you?  It could be your breath.  You might have the chronic, halitosis.  There are not that many mints in the world.  Do you know bad breath is still plaguing up to 10 percent of the world?  That is like 7 billion people if I use my hands to count. If you’re worried you’re one of these people, one trick is to lick your wrist, wait ten seconds, then sniff the patch you licked: If it smells, chances are, so does your breath. If you are not sure just ask a home girl. A friend, neutral female friend.
This, in fact, is true of any concern you have regarding your various bodily odors, be it mouth, foot, armpit or even groin (okay, maybe not groin. Just wash your ass man).
Find somebody you know and trust and ask them,”. If they tell you that you don’t smell bad, then most likely, you don’t have anything to worry about.” Just remember, if they tell you that you smell fine while backing away with their eyes watering, you may want to try asking somebody else.
It’s nearly impossible to smell yourself, even if you’re smelling funky. The receptors in your nose that would normally respond to your own particular brand of smells practically shut down after being bombarded with the same scents for so long.
Basically, your nose goes numb to your own stank so you don’t go insane.
Sweat usually means bacteria, and bacteria is what gives off the stench.  Just because it is natural doesn't mean we want you around.
Now go by the golden rule of body odor: If you can smell any odor on yourself at all, others can smell it a lot more. Put on more deodorant, use wet wipes to give yourself a quick cleanup, or put on a new change of clothes. The same rules goes for deodorants, perfumes, colognes, and body sprays too. If you can still detect your fancy perfume on you after a while, other people can definitely smell it when they’re around you.

Lets’ talk about fragrances. Forget what my SGTMAJ said.  Buy some cologne.  It will differentiate you from inmates, teenagers, and men that can't get a mate.
Smelling good and using fragrances is something else no one talks about.   But I want you to shine.  You know the motto of the Game Changers podcast.
When you know better, you can do better.

Wearing a fragrance is a distinctive way of expressing yourself. Different scents carry different vibes, and knowing these vibes and choosing accordingly matters. Also, people associate scents with memories and other people (especially women). If you are wearing scents that are unremarkable or common – you'll smell like everyone else.  Think of how you think a old man smells.  How does 13 year old smell?  How does a prisoner smell?  Is it starting to gel?

Smelling good, brothers:
  1. It can increase your level of attractiveness.
  2. It can increase your perceived level of trust.
  3. It can effect on how people perceive you.
  4. It can reduce stress levels.
  5. It can increase confidence levels.
  6. It can increase your alertness.
  7. It can double your chances of getting a woman's phone number.
80% of men don't use a fragrance regularly!
Major brands create perfumes that are part science and part marketing. They have a familiar feel to all their perfumes. Ralph Lauren perfumes, for example are created to have similar scents. And the same for Polo.  It is too strong for some and just right for others.  When deciding to purchase a new fragrance – let your nose decide!

Cost isn't based on what is good or bad.  We end up paying for the marketing cost and the image associated with a brand.

In the podcast I'll be sharing in detail:
  1. The types of fragrances.
  2. How to test them.
  3. Which one to buy.
  4. How to apply them best.

I know this is something that nobody else had the guts to share with you but I had to.  I want you to win.  I want you to rock it.  I want you to be a game changer.

Check out this episode!

Wednesday, February 19, 2020

A Book Series For You To Check Out

Everyone has a story, but not everyone shares it. Mine involves werewolves. It is fictional but I wrote it as if I was there, weaving American history, music and drama together.  I am writing a series about a guy called Solomon Love.

I would love for you to check it out and let me know what you think.  Here's the set up.

He was born in what is now the west African country of Gambia, Sulayman, an aspiring musician and storyteller, of the tradition of “akonting,” he was captured by British slavers and sold as a slave in North America in the 1700’s. He was accused of raping his white mistress, the plantation owners’ daughter, and subsequently publicly whipped until presumed dead.  Laying in the courtyard of a huge estate, barely alive but unconscious, he comes to in the full moon night. Wounded but unfettered, he makes his escape into the nearby swamps. Going by the limited knowledge he had about the land and the lore, he remembers that North was the direction of freedom. There was  a myth that God had made it so moss only grew on the north sides of the trees.

After hours of walking in the marshes, he learned that moss grew on all sides of trees. Seeking to die in peace, bleeding out and dehydrated he rest in the hull of a tree trunk as he waits to pass on from this life to the next. As he slips in and out of consciousness, he sees the eyes of a predator closing in on him.

When he awakes he finds that he is now being taken care of by a strange woman of the swamp. He heals and enjoys a freedom he has not seen in this land. He soon learns the price of his freedom. This woman has changed him into something else. They are now spiritually bound.

For over three hundred years he has evaded her. Today he is a modern day blues musician. A relic in every sense of the word. He has successfully managed to keep his secret hid from all but a few. The times are changing. Evil is flourishing. It is becoming harder and harder to keep his existence undercover. And now there is another problem….

This is the continuing story of Solomon Love, werewolf.

The books are self published. They are hard to find on but I have links below.  They are quick reads.

Solomon Love: Where The Moss Grows

Solomon Love: Voodoo Child

Love Never Dies: Solomon Love Series

Why werewolves?

My favorite movie monster was always the werewolf.  The movie monster has changed since Lon Chaney, Jr. first changed into the Wolf Man in the black and white film but I still love the character.  Unlike vampires, zombies or Frankenstein's' monster, the werewolf is a living thing.  It is cursed. It is feared.  It could be anyone.  It is natural.  It is the subject I pull from to create a series of werewolves that originate from a man bitten by a werewolf during the period of American slavery.  The man now almost immortal has been hiding in plain sight as a blues musician.  The books chronicle bits of history, blues music, horror and crime drama.

I am still polishing my craft as a writer and editor.  The latter needs more work. But the story is exciting to tell.  I gleaned the help of my friend Derek Ward to help me with writing dialogue in the first two books.  The excitement for me is in researching the lore, the music and trying to keep the history straight.

The most recent book is more sexual in nature than the others.  I am a romantic at heart, with a dirty mind.  In my creative journey, I can see this as a graphic novel or a Netflix series.  I have seven more books in my head.  Only time will tell if it comes to fruition.

Tuesday, February 18, 2020


Looking for a government job? 

Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before… Phil 3:13

When I was unemployed.  Looking desperately for a good government job, I was crushed by how many jobs I put in for without hearing anything.  I was convinced USAJOBS was the devil.  I found out later that there are ways to do it better.

Have you ever tried to get a position through USAJOBS?  It isn’t easy but not impossible.  After 7 years, I finally got one of my resumes through the gauntlet.  It wasn’t luck or a celestial event.  Someone gave me advice.  I want to share some of that with you. 

When you start or restart, create a professional profile for yourself.  You email address should not be anything but your name.  You will be judged later by RUMPSHAKER-123@ for sure. The key word here is professional. 

Pay Attention to the Announcement

Make sure you see how the supporting documents can/should be submitted.  Success is not in the number of resumes you send out, but in how thoroughly you address the employer’s needs and show your value in each submission.

In reviewing the basic qualifications and the job description – if you do NOT have similar types of duties, which make use of similar knowledge/skill/ability then you will not be considered for the position.

Don’t lie if you don't meet all of the requirements.  If you meet the basic qualifications but not the specialized experience, you will likely not be rated as well qualified by the HR team.  Don't dishonestly claim something you didn't do or a skill you don't have.

About that Resume

Match the language used in the posting. Do NOT spell out numbers (i.e., “ten” vs. "10"), even for small numbers. Get the dates right.  This is important when HR is determining whether or not you have the 1 year of specialized experience (if that is part of the qualification requirements). Be thorough in your description of job duties for each position on your resume. HR can NOT ‘guess’ or ‘assume’ or ‘give you the benefit of doubt’ that you have the knowledge/skill/ability to do the job that is being advertised.

A typical federal resume is 4-6 pages. Make good use of your resume “real estate;” everything on your resume should be focused on the job you are applying for. Anything else should be eliminated. Ten years is the main focus. You are not likely to achieve success when applying for federal jobs with a 1-2-page resume. 

Success is not in the number of resumes you send out, but in how thoroughly you address the employer’s needs and show your value.  Don't use full sentences, but start a phrase with a verb.

For the majority of the assessment questions, if you can say expert or near expert, when relevant, do it.  But be able to back it up in your text afterwards. (i.e., examples)

You have the opportunity to save five resumes in USAJOBS.  Use it.  Do not submit the same resume for every opportunity. It may be easy but by using a cookie-cutter resume, you’ll make the same mistakes.  

And finally, don’t give up.

If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door.

I finally got that good government cheddar in November.  I hope this helps you.

Sunday, February 16, 2020

Lust Please

Today, I know the difference between love and lust.  

That wasn't the case 20 and 30 years ago. Lust is an intense sexual attraction to another person.  You just want to do what biology is calling on you to, by any means necessary.  It is fueled in your mind by fantasy and competition.

 You want to "hit the bottom" or knock a hole in that thing.

It's goal directed.  It's addictive.  It's self centered. You just can't wait to get in to it. Oh I remember those days.  When it is mutual, it can be animalistic. When it is not it violates. It can endanger.  One of the only good things about lust is can be what starts a good relationship.  It can be what allows for deep physical connection, if we survive the fire.

When your hearts on fire, smoke gets in your eyes.

Lust feels like love until its' time to make a sacrifice. Love and lust, however, are not identical and can appear in any combination, with or without the other, fluctuating between the two states over time. Love is a basic human need that keeps us bonded to the people who matter most. A secure, loving attachment with a romantic partner involves a deep affection, trust, and acceptance of a person, with all of their flaws.

I want to tell you about a girl I lusted after.  She had a serious hour glass figure.  When she wore her red, she could stop traffic.  Police officers used to follow us, just to see her. She had a peek a boo bra. She was big up top. She was hotter than Georgia asphalt.  She spoke with a low deep voice.  She was not good for me. She was a 1971 Chevy Corvette.  She had a big block 454 engine with a Edelbrock blower peaking out of the fiberglass hood.  It had hard detachable t-tops. In the summer, you could feel the temperature from engine compartment.  It didn't have A/C.  The motor was so powerful it had chains assisting the motor mounts.  You could torque the frame with the RPM of the engine. She growled when she idled.  She got 10 miles to the gallon in the city. 12MPG on the highway under 60.  She got respect and a lot of looks.  I had to park her away from other cars.  She was horrible in bad weather.  She slid on wet pavement like a ice skater.  It was lust.

She gave nothing back. When you want a cool car, it is lust.  The car can't and doesn't love you back.  It is one sided. Lust is like that.  There is no commitment.  She'll put you down in a out of the way place.  She'll wear out, or be sold for something newer. You don't do that with a person you love.

Great Interview 

Conversation with the authors of 15 Rules, Janet C. Hall and Steven R. Hall, authors.  

15 Rules For a Loving, Lasting, and Satisfying Relationship

by Janet C Hall and Steven R Hall | Dec 13, 2019

Check out this episode!

Wednesday, February 12, 2020

How To Keep Your Mama Safe

They Got My Mama.

They called her on her cellphone early in the morning and told her that her grandson and had a car accident in New Jersey, was found at fault and locked up.  Through social engineering and elicitation she believed it.  When a young man called a few minutes later, whose voice she didn't recognize, she attributed it to him being scared, locked up, not trying to speak too loud. They managed to convince my mother not to tell "pops" because you know how strict he is.

 "I need money grandma to get out of jail.  I need $500 and don't tell my dad."

How was she going to send money to her grandson?  She was going to wire it by Western Union.  She got dressed and searched for a grocery store to wire money to a unknown person who was riding with her grandson.  He was drinking and the police arrested him and took his car.

The next day, there was another call.  The voice said, he needed $350 more dollars to get the car out of the impound lot.  Grandma was distraught.  She was almost 80 years old and didn't have disposal income like that.  On the next trip to the grocery store, she was going to advance a credit card when the store attendant spoke up and advised her that she may want to double check what she was doing.

It might be a scam.

Day Three.  I get a call from my mother who is physically beaten.  She is nervous and doesn't want to tell me that Junior has been arrested for drinking. He may have wrecked his car and was in jail in New Jersey.

I texted my son as he was going to work.

 "hey dad, what's up?"
  Grandma thinks you are in jail.
 "????  "
Call her at lunch time and tell her you love her.

One of the best things I have done in my life is raise my son.  He is honest. He is a joy to be around.  He is a fitness nut.  He doesn't drink or smoke.  I call him Kenn 2.0  He is better than I ever was at the same age.  I knew with almost 99% certainty that my mother was wrong and had been duped.

She was embarrassed. She was hurt and she was out about $600.

What happened is not isolated.  Criminals prey on the elderly.  They do it by phone, email, and any means possible.  My mom is not alone.

They are tracking you too online.

Social engineering is the art of manipulating, influencing, or deceiving you in order to gain control over your computer system or your bank. The hacker might use the phone, email, snail mail or direct contact to gain illegal access. They do this through phishing, pharming, malware, spyware, spamming, and any means they can exploit.

You've heard of internet cookies, right?

Cookies are used although they can also make the Web easier to navigate. A cookie is a piece of text that a Web server can store on a user's hard disk. Cookies allow a Web site to store information on a user's machine and later retrieve it.  They are the reason your search for face masks on Amazon result in you seeing them everywhere you go online afterwards. Amazon assigns you an ID, stores your information with that ID in its database on the server, and sends the ID to your browser as a cookie. The pieces of information are stored as name-value pairs.

It generates a unique ID number for you and stores the ID number on your machine by file. Our browsers store the ID on our hard disk. The next time you go to Amazon, the ID is sent back to the server. The server looks you up by your ID and customizes the Web page it sends back to you. The page might say, "Welcome back, [Your Name Here]!"  Its not a security risk per se, but it's creepy.

They sell this info though. There are certain infrastructure providers that can actually create cookies that are visible on multiple sites.  This is the fuel that makes telemarketing and junk mail possible. On a Web site, the site can track not only your purchases, but also the pages that you read, the ads that you click on, etc. This is why you get the same type of stripper on Instagram.  It's the type you like. Your behavior, your preferences have been locked in.   If you then purchase something on a similar site and enter your name and address, that site potentially knows much more about you than your mama does. This makes targeting much more precise, and that makes us uncomfortable.

Metadata and Geo-tagging

The photo your grandma took at Disney to post on Facebook can tell a story through the metadata that is hidden.  Geo-tagging is most commonly used for photographs and can help people get a lot of specific information about where the picture was taken or the exact location of a friend who logged on to a service.  It can also be risky for you or other people in your photos. It can disclose your whereabouts, time, and activities to the wrong people. A picture of your vacation can alert criminals that your home may be empty.

To keep your mama, and the rest of your family safe, you should have a conversation with them about social media, cookies, and being safer on the internet.  Talk to your elders about the internet.  Social media as we know it is less than 20 years old.  It is still changing.  Predators are counting on it to keep the uninitiated off balance and steal their identification, and their money.

Protect your mama.

Monday, February 10, 2020

Is She The One?

Probably not.  I say that up front because we don't make the best decisions on relationships early.  You need experience to be a good judge of what a good relationship is or is not.  You must be mature enough to know what you want.  You have to unfortunately, guess more often than not.  Her having a "big butt and a smile" is not enough.  A good wife is a partner for life.  A good partner is a friend. A friend with benefits that you want to marry don't make you not want to come home or duck them for peace of mind. A friend with benefits that you want to marry does not give you static.

A friend that you want to marry is not a security risk.  She is not likely to land you in jail.  She is not likely to surprise you with a baby.  She is not going to get you into a fight.
A friend you want to marry likes the same stuff you do.  Or if she doesn't wants to learn. 

Opposites don't really attract.  There is something about you two that you like.  It could be as simple as you both work at the same place.  You both drive on the same road.  You both shared a glance in a crowded elevator.  You shared a weekend of great sex.  But everything else is whack.  Don't do bad math either.  Don't settle for some good and some bad.  What people show you early in your relationship will still be around five years later or be worse. 

I am sharing this with you as someone who has survived almost everything you can go through as a boyfriend, fiancé and husband.

Marriage is good when you can share your life with someone with the same goals, dreams and values as you. Living together can expose some of the things we would normally hide from each other but even then it can cause more problems than you need.  People have problems. None of us is wrapped in perfect boxes.  Unfortunately, when we rush relationships, rush growth, we suffer.  Everyone grows differently.  Education and age are not great factors in telling maturity.  I have seen and heard men with PhD's deliver love letters to love interest that bordered on juvenile.  In the relationship game, they were in elementary school even though they could quote theorems on quantum physics.  It is even tougher today for those that have embraced social media and don't have good conversation skills. 

It is not enough to say that a person you love, knows me.  A good marriage thrives on the open exchange of emotion, desires, and beliefs. Communication is one of the most important aspects life. When you can communicate, you can do almost anything. Through communication, you'd learn if your partner was honest, respectful, positive and open.  Through good channels they would indeed know where you were coming from even if you weren't on the same level.  If she is the one, then the both of you would be able to put up with, deal, handle, and tackle anything the world threw at you, together. And it will.

You don't want to fight at work, and at home.  If you do, she ain't the one.